virginity:

• is sexist
• is heteronormative
• commodifies sex
• commodifies young cis-het white women
• contributes to rape culture
• contributes to slut-shaming
• erases queer folk
• erases transfolk
• frames a woman’s worth as inversely proportional to the number of dicks that have been inside her

can i just reiterate for absolute clarity, IT HAS NO PHYSICAL OR SCIENTIFIC BASIS. virginity is exclusively a social construct. there is not even a minute difference between a person’s body before and after any form of sexual intercourse. if the hymen was damaged during penetration of a vagina, it heals within days and returns to its former state of partially or mostly covering the vaginal orifice in order to protect the delicate inner balance of the vagina. both the hymen and the rectum become more flexible after several sessions of penetration with appropriate foreplay (please don’t skip that part or they’ll only tear, heal and scar), but that’s not a single cherry-popping moment, that’s exercising the tissue over time.

so when people say “virginity is a social construct”, what they mean is that you are literally making up a physical event that does not happen in order to perpetuate a misogynist, racist*, transphobic and utterly disgusting narrative. which you fucking shouldn’t.

*”how is virginity racist?” did you know that a lot of writers throughout history have suggested that women of colour cannot physically be virgins because virginity is believed to be a state of purity and people of colour can’t be “pure”. also, many native cultures had no concept of virginity, believing sexual play among children is healthy, and they had their cultural practices attacked and their children taken away for this belief. this is one of the core issues that lead to the stolen generation in australia, because white invaders believed that allowing children to explore sex and sexuality makes them ineligible for marriage and “proper” christianity, so aboriginal children were taken from their families and culture, and still were awarded a lower social status than white children. these are only two examples of extremely recent practices wherein white supremacy has wielded the idea of virginity as a weapon of racism, not just to oppress people of colour but to try and utterly destroy their cultural practices and heritage.